Thursday, April 30, 2009

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT- SELF CONTROL

So this post will be the last in the Fruit Of The Spirit series, it has been fun to have something to think about almost daily. I love being reminded of the fruits of the spirit, it seems so simple and childlike. All of them are qualities I want to have and be remembered by and also teach my children as well.

Self Control- and yet another difficult one for me. For me Proverbs is a book of the bible that I refer back to time and time again.

How many times do you want to nag at your children or your husband, to pick up after themselves or get something or other done? Self control of the tongue is a hard one, but a necessary one that is so important.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.Proverbs 15:1

Attitude and tone of voice is something we are working on in our family right now. From the occasional sassing back to straight out bickering and harsh tones. We are trying to teach the kids the importance of gentle answers and just the way you speak to another human being. When I get overwhelmed in the resources I have of information, I tend to go right back to the basics and read through Proverbs, everything seems again so simple, so full of wise advice.

My husband went through a time years ago when negative thoughts would become the norm for his day. He started wearing a rubberband around his wrist and every time he would think of something negative he would snap it, OUCH. At first it seemed funny to me, but after watching him conquer a problem in his life, and watching him do it diligently I was impressed. Im sure you could work this excercise in any area of your life that you need help with...problems with tone of voice, negative thoughts etc..you could fill in the blank.


It has been great to see him work diligently in his bible reading and watch his faith unfold. Naturally gaining self control just happens and it is a blessing to see.

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

FRIUT OF THE SPIRIT - GENTLENESS

When I hear the word gentleness there are many ways we can demostrate that word. The disciplining of a child who needs correction, the way we talk to our elders that need help, the caring for a helpless new baby. How about talking to a doubter or unbeliever? I find myself in the heat of many conversations at family gatherings or parties with my family. My brother does not believe that the bible has any relevance in this day and age and openly admits to not believing there is only one way to get to heaven.

A few years ago when I was embarking on this new journey of mine, I could not help but share what I had learned and wanted all my family to understand what I am now understanding. At first these "discussions" got heated and I did not handle them "gently". As time goes on I may never change my brothers mind or anyone else I come in contact with, however, treating the situation gently has helped. After all we are supposed to model the fruits of the spirit.

I pray for my brother to open his mind and listen , I will keep trying with lots of patience and gentleness.

Have you ever encountered a situation where your beliefs and values were not shared with someone? Was is hard to model gentleness in that area?

Sunday, April 26, 2009

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT - FAITHFULNESS

Well after living out the last 2 weeks of my life without internet at our house, I am proud to say I practiced my patience. I also had faith it would soon be back:)

In all seriousness, I am thrilled to have internet! I hope that never happens again. We will all be more carefull about letting a 2 year old have the chance to destroy anymore valuables!

Faithfulness- that is something we all must strive to improve in our christian life. We all must have faith that Jesus died on the cross, was buried and arose the third day. We all must have faith that God is in control of our lives and that he has a better plan and outcome that we could arrive to ourselves. We all must have faith that this world and the problems and trials we face are only temporary, (thank God).
We all must have faith that we will spend eternity in the loving arms of our Lord.

Through the hard days we must prevail and keep the faith. I personally do not know how people can go through life's struggles without faith, how desperate and alone they must feel. I pray for them tonight as I have the comfort of learning faith.

Someone at church today told me they felt bad about my husband and I losing our home, and I told her that I have faith that it will all work out, and just asked her to pray for us.

We must come to the point where we live out the faith that we are talking about. And so that was my challenge at the start of this mess and I continue to pray for continued faith and grace as I go through this the months that lie ahead.

Monday, April 20, 2009

IM BACK!!

Just a quick check in for my regulars:) I have been without internet access for over a week. Can you believe that such a cute 2 year old could chew through your computer wire and manage to break 2 computers within days of each other?! All I can say is boy o boy BOYS are a handful:) I am just checking the web tonight thanks to a great friend. I have been having withdrawls, literally.

One good thing came of it, I am spending more time reading and getting farther in my bible reading, I have 8 months to finish my goal!

I hope to have the parts for my computer shortly and get back to a normal routine and I will finish off FRUITS OF THE SPIRIT.

I will be back soon.

Sunday, April 12, 2009

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT-GOODNESS

Happy Easter to everyone, today we touch upon "goodness".

How many of you can think of something good in your life? Years ago I came across this little paragraph from a book I was reading at the time and I wanted to share it today with you....

Take a look at your life. Think about the moments and events- the details- and see how far you've come. Those "good things" weren't coincidences. You weren't just lucky. If your heart has followed after God, then God has been leading you, and you have been doing his will, perhaps without even knowing it.

When I first read that I had an epiphany. I thought of all the "good things" that had happened in my life over the last few years... marriage, children, building our home, making new christian friends, finding a church we love and school that belongs to it for our children , christian education and a pastor we love to name a few. All these things were brought to us from above, I really felt it for the first time. God blessed us with these "good things" such goodness in our lives.

Think back over the last few years at what God has brought into your lives. Indeed the best is your salvation through his death and resurrection.

Happy Easter.

Friday, April 10, 2009

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT- KINDNESS

Can you remember a time in your life when somebody did something kind for you? I can remember alot of times and recently. How do you feel when someone shows you kindness?

I think of the story in Luke, about the good samaritan. A hated foreigner who stops to help a beat down man who was robbed. He showed kindness and took time out to help this man.

I think that is it. It does not take much to do something kind. You do not need to spend hours preparing or money spent. It is free and can be as simple as a smile or warm welcome to a new face at church, or to a stranger down the street. There are millions of kind gestures that you can do daily.

Thinking of the way you feel after someone displays kindness should be reason enough to show kindness yourself. Some people feel that being kind is being a pushover, but remmeber we are to model these fruits of the spirit. I think kindness is an easy one, and can become a healthy habit!

Has anyone done something kind for you lately that you want to share?

Thursday, April 9, 2009

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT-PATIENCE

This is one area I struggle with greatly. I tend to be very impatient when I have stress going on in my life. I need to get a handle on this since let's face it there will always be some sort of stress in ones life. I find that when I am trying to tackle too much at once I become very impatient when things do not "go right". No excuse, I know, this is not the example I want to display for my kids or others around me.

I think recognizing area's in your life that you need help with is the first step, much prayer after that. This is one of the reasons I love to be reminded of the fruits of the spirit. It is then I know the traits I want to have and live out in my life.

I think of how God is so patient with all of us, he has all the time in the world, there is never a rush, he is there ALWAYS.

I recognize that I get most impatient when I am trying to get something done and then something else pops up. It has been a valuable lesson for me to plan a bit more. I am not great at this, but it has it's perks. Just by getting some dinner prepped mid day helps the after school rush. Then I can spend time with my kids hearing all about their day, isn't that more important?

What area's of your life cause you impatience?

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT- PEACE

How many of us struggle with being at peace in our lives? It is so easy to be at peace when you are sipping coffee in a recliner, looking at the water on a lake or listening to your favorite pastor's sermon on a Sunday morning. But what about having an at peace feeling in the midst of chaos?

During the last year with our financial struggles I have found that I am at most peace when I give my worries and fears over to the Lord. I do not know when I will have to move, or where. I do not know if my husband can continue his job as a business owner. There are alot of uncertainties in my life right now, but one thing that brings me absolute peace is trusting and having faith. It has been an invaluable life lesson that I thank God for daily.

Christ's peace is more powerful than our daily struggles.

If you want peace to be at the center of your heart listen to this verse...

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace". Col.3:15

Let Jesus in so that you may have peace at the center of your life this lenten season and always.

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT- JOY

Today our fruit of the spirit is JOY.

The fruit of the spirit is the work of the spirit in our lives. When I read about all the fruits of the spirit I want to be like all of them all the time. I then remember it is something that happens to you because of your softened heart and your letting Jesus into it.

The holy spirit works in you and you portray these "fruits" naturally as Christ lives in your hearts. By Christ living in your hearts the character traits that are found in Christ can be found in us.

You can't pretend to be "joyful". In the midst of the daily grind with bills to be paid,frustrating experiences, problems at work/home, don't let your joy be taken from you.

Jesus entered this world with joy, the angels said"I bring you good news of great joy" Luke2:10
He also left this world giving joy, shortly before his death he said" I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete" John 15:11

So where do we turn to to find joy this lenten season and always? The only answer at all times any time is in JESUS.

MY SON'S 2ND BIRTHDAY

Today is my third child, my only son's 2nd birthday. It is so hard to believe that he has been with us for 2 years already. What an exciting addition he has been to our family and he is ALL boy, after having two daughter's he really keeps me on my toes.

He was born two years ago on Easter Sunday.

I want to share a quick story about his birth.


During my third pregnancy I felt almost the same as my others, only a little more movement going on in there. We never found out the gender of the baby.

On the Saturday night, the night before Easter my husband and I watched the The Passion Of The Christ, like we did every year since it had been on DVD. As we were watching the movie my husband commented on how he liked the way Jesus sounded in Aramaic, it sounded like Yeshua (Joshua), he said if it is a boy he thought that name would be nice.

Well later that night my water broke and off to the hospital we went (2 weeks early).I had been wanting the baby to be born on April 15th, that was my dad's birthday. To our surprise and delight we had a beautiful baby boy born on Easter Sunday. We named him Joshua and were so happy with the meaning "The Lord Saves".

His birth is such a happy memory for me, the fact we had a son and the fact he was born on Easter Sunday. God had better plans for the birthdate of our child than I could have ever wished for.

During this pregnancy I had secretly been hoping for a boy, so that when he grew older he could share some of the more manly stuff with my husband. Little did I know the great joy and bond a son could bring to his mother. It has been a busy, exciting time with this little guy. I look forward to the many more "firsts" that I will experience with a son and I cherish all the memories I have with him.

I thank God for him daily.

Happy Birthday Joshua!!

Monday, April 6, 2009

FRUITS OF THE SPIRIT- LOVE

In my bible reading I have just finished Deuteronomy and am halfway through Joshua. Each time I read these Old Testament stories it is like the first time all over again. There is so much to learn and grasp and each time I read it I learn something new. I have left off with Joshua fighting the battle of Jericho. Exciting stuff.

In my daily devotional I am studying the friuts of the spirit.

But the friut of the spirit is Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control. Galatians 5:22

It seems always so simple to live these out, yet a struggle in the everyday situations that life brings. I thought it would be a nice idea to go over each of the fruits of the spirit. I can't promise everyday updates with it being Holy Week and all, but maybe this can be an additional quiet time to ponder with God.

The first is Love.


Look up Love in the back of your bible, you will see multiple listings. The word and meaning are very important and Jesus mentions them alot.

There are all kinds of things we love.......I love apples, I love chocolate, I love my family...etc

But the kind of love Jesus demonstrates is "agape" love. This is love in the highest order. This is selfless love. This is love that is not centered on yourself but on others. This is the kind of love Jesus loves us with. When we sin he loves us with "agape" love. When we run away from God's word he loves us with "agape" love. Love is the essence of God.

This is real love. It is not that we loved God,but that he loved us.....1John 4:10

Friday, April 3, 2009

LIVE ON HALF

I read an article the other day about surviving on one income. The author challenged his readers to cut one whole salary out from a two income family. The author suggested to save this money and really try to live on one income. You can imagine the thoughts of horror from most folks.

This is great advice in these times. With unemployment at it's highest, no job is really secure anymore. What if the unexpected happens? Survival in the last year around here has been pretty simple. We are using cash only for all purchases, there is no more credit and we are only buying what is needed, period.

A few things I have been doing since the start of this financial mess is.....


1. Clipping coupons (this has worked wonders in my grocery budget)

2. Cooking in bulk (extra meals for the freezer)

3. Planting a garden (fresh veggies in the summer months)

4. Canning food in season

5. Lowering the thermostat(cuts down on heat bills)

6.Cooking with less meat on average in a week (Lots of no meat meals that are filling)

7. Planning meals with the store sales

8. Making some of my own cleaners and household products

I cannot control the economy, but I can make small changes that make a big impact and so can you. Over time I have noticed a little more wiggle room in the budget by being diligent in this area, and I am amazed at how far things go.

So as the author suggested this challenge would be a great experience for any couple with two incomes. Imagine a new married couple banking one whole income. It is traditional advice that has been around a long time, to live on less than you make.

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

THOUGHTS ON MARRIAGE

Do you ever have the experience of reading what you need to hear at the right time? Almost like God just threw a book or quote in your face? Well with a 9 1/2 year old daughter in the house, I am thinking alot of the next phase in her life. All the changes that are around the corner. The teenage years and how she will value herself and how she will look at her mom and dad as examples of how a couple interacts.

I came across this daily devotion that I get every morning in my e-mail inbox. I thought it was quite interesting. It lead me to think of the importance this issue has on daughters and sons. The importance of abstinence and the importance of really praying for your child's future husband or wife. I am pretty traditional and use the bible for pointing out the roles of wives and the roles of husbands. With me being a homemaker and my husband the provider we have traditional roles. This article encouraged me to continue to point out the importance of the christian household and the importance of praying for it for ourselves and others, as there are so many "worldly temptations" to tear it down.

I agree with this article, as you will read, it is about single moms, who choose to have a baby thinking that they do not need a husband or father in the house.


"A Good Idea At The Time"

April 1, 2009

And the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." Genesis 2:18

The Center for Disease Control has announced the figure: unwed mothers account for 40 percent of all babies born in the U.S. Buried in the findings is another statistic: less than one fourth of those births happen to teenagers.

Simply stated, those figures mean many women -- women who know what they are doing -- have decided marriage and children don't necessarily go hand-in-hand.

Many of these women who have themselves come from broken homes, have decided some men aren't spiritually, emotionally, morally, and financially fit to be fathers. That's understandable. What is not understandable is why these ladies get involved with these guys at all.

What the Center for Disease Control doesn't say is this: children born to single mothers have a much higher incidence of being poor, having behavioral and psychological problems, dropping out of school, and having their own one-parent families.

The Center for Disease Control doesn't say, as Isabel Sawhill of the Brookings Institution said to Congress in 1999, that the increase in single-parent families mostly due to unwed motherhood "can account for virtually all of the increase in child poverty since 1970."

Finally, the Center for Disease Control doesn't say the Lord was right when He decreed men and women were designed to support each other in a life-long commitment to Him and each other.

Most certainly, the world, sin, and Satan do their best to place terrible burdens, problems, and pains upon any family. Without the Savior and the ongoing presence and power of the Holy Spirit, every household will find itself strained to the breaking point.

Still, God's intentions are clear and His blessings are promised to husbands and wives who follow the Savior and try to glorify Him with their lives and at their own family altar. By His grace, may the statistics of such committed Christian men and women also grow and be a witness to our sinful, selfish world.

THE PRAYER: Heavenly Father, many people are following a path of reason that will cause problems for them and their children. Today, I ask You to strengthen Christian homes so all may know the value of husbands and wives who are committed to You and each other. In Jesus' Name, I ask it. Amen.